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What We Talk About When We Talk About Love Raymond Carver
Publisher: Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group

What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About "Breadwinner Moms". For many years, I have been the bread-winning mom the media loves to celebrate and desecrate. You won't win the office pool, but you may still claim victory in the last game of smack talk with your neighbor whose team lost in the round before yours. Nothing left now but to go How do we rise and how do we fall? Literature was for homosexuals; so was any affection. Which makes me wonder what we mean when we say that characters are “unlikeable” – specifically female characters. In The Things We Talk About When We Talk About Love, Carver takes the simplest of scenes and imbues it with understated and unstated emotion – and on occasion, a raw elegance. With some books, the narration is simply so humorous that it's impossible NOT to like the character who is narrating, but I always love the girls who are harder to like, mostly because that's how people are in real life too. The loneliness and the love that unburdens loneliness are like a basketball in flight, the yearning and the longed-for affection, the heightened expectation, the resolution that comes of seeing the ball in the net. Like you, I am an I don't really like, nor am I good at, small talk – and this occasionally gets interpreted as rudeness. My father says that he has always loved to read and write and that his father—my grandfather—despised him for this. We are obsessed with biographies of legends perhaps because, as Harvard literature professor Marjorie Garber has written, we seek “a certain kind of emulative high, an intoxication of the superlative.” “It's not that there is no such thing as genius,” she summarizes in an Atlantic .